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January 12, 2010

When You're Getting Married??


How to Answer People When They Ask You When You're Getting Married

When the two of you have been together for ages but the question of "when" is not even one the two of you are ready to broach, the interfering questions of well-meaning family and friends can be a bother. It can also be embarrassing when one of you has started to think about this more and more and the other partner is not even on the same wavelength. Here are some ideas for coping with this age-old question politely and evasively all at once.
(mmg lotih nak menjawab soklan pemes ni esp for us yg been together for almost five years. huh!)

Steps
**Smile disarmingly and tell the person who has asked you that you're both enjoying one another's company immensely, and that they will certainly be one of the first to know if the two of you decide anything significant.
(this is one of my fevret answer)

**Be firm if they keep insisting or teasing. Ask them how they would feel if you were to badger them about a similarly personal topic, such as when they intend having kids, moving into a retirement home, or selling the farm. Say it nicely but it is good to provide a graphic example of how personal questions are not very nice sometimes. If you're good at humor without making people feel belittled, you could even turn this into a light-hearted joke.
(macam xsampai ati je nk ckp cani. usually i bermonolog sendirian je. sedey sowang2. sob sob..)

**Discuss the topic with your partner. He or she probably feels just as uncomfortable as you do when people ask you the unwanted question. Come up with a joint plan on tackling the question. Neither of you needs to be at the stage of actually discussing marriage but you do need a united front on batting back the question kindly and as a couple.
 
Tips
**It may be easiest to just chuckle and say "Hmm... well, when we know, you'll know."

**Remember, it's really nobody else's business except you and your mate's.

**Pick a random day and say, "September 24." When they ask what year reply, "Oh, we have not settled on a year."
(Hahaha..ni pun my fevret jwpn gak. "bulan dah decide, tp tahun bile lom dcide lg")

**Just put on your super-sweet smile and say "I don't know. How kind of you to ask." Then close your lips and watch them stutter.

6 comments:

Aning said...

Haha.. Dulu 1st time bawak boyot balik umah, mak aku dah tanye bile nak kawen.. Mase tu aku baru nak masuk 2nd year.. mende nak kawen.. aku jawab 8/8/8.. kakak aku ckp jgn main2.. last2 mmg betol aku kawen date tu.. 4 years later.. hehehe..

L i 3 z @ said...

waaa...beshnye kalo jd cam ko. dpt kawen on time dat u wished to. jelesnye!

Aning said...

Time tu aku main sebut je.. Tp tgk balik date tu mcm cantik aje.. memang dah ditakdirkan tuhan, time tu gak in term of financial pon dah ok..so, proceed aje..Betul la kate org, kate-kate tu kan boleh jadi doa.. hehehe.. rajin-rajin la ckp nak kawen ujung taun ni.. Opsss.. >,<

L i 3 z @ said...

yeke? aku kena doa n ckp ari2 la ek.ok2! aku nk kawen thn ni. aku nk kawen thn ni. aku nk kawen thn ni. aku nk kawen thn ni. aku nk kawen thn ni. aku nk kawen thn ni. amin...

fanadz said...

haha.i like this..aku slalu jawab "esok", or "nak kasi duit?" bile org tny bile aku nak kawen.huhu.

L i 3 z @ said...

esok? hm gud idea =)